APRIL 2010
• 23 INFORMATION.
• 05 Information.
MARCH 2010
• 06 Suppressed rage
• 06 permission to use my texts
FEBRUARY 2010
• 28 We need time
• 28 To stop running
• 18 Without feelings
• 12 Flyers in English in Youtube
• 10 The confusing family
JANUARY 2010
• 28 I want to heal
• 28 Becoming a counselor.
• 23 Spontanious painting
• 20 To find the cause
• 17 A great relief
• 17 Dissociation
• 17 Indifference
• 12 The enlightened Witness
• 10 "And now there is no pet anymore".
• 10 Interviews
• 05 A story
• 04 about guilt
• 04 W need the rage as a compass
• 04 We can't buy a new family
DECEMBER 2009
• 24 A daughter kills her mother
• 20 Letter to my mother
• 20 becoming artist
• 20 Scary, yes.
• 02 Longing for the familly
• 02 Hitting to teach you a lesson
• 02 Survived a hell.
NOVEMBER 2009
• 24 The good start
• 23 To listen to the body
• 23 to breath better
• 17 The consollation of illusions
• 14 My life
• 12 Dealing with anger
• 12 Leaving the silence
• 06 Biography
• 03 How to protect children from a teacher?
OCTOBER 2009
• 31 Reactions to an article on the NYT
• 29 No university interested in the issue of child abuse
• 29 About depression
• 25 Healthy "narcissism"?
• 25 Working with PTSD
• 20 No longer in danger
• 19 the avoided rage
• 19 Congratulation
• 19 Exposing the wounds to heal
• 16 How to feel rage?
• 16 Alone but not separated from oneself
• 16 Spanking in Australia
• 16 How do we chose a partner?
• 07 Forgiveness
• 03 To touch the hearts
• 03 The world must wake up
• 02 Looking at the own history
• 02 Yes, we CAN
• 02 invitations
• 01 The case Henry Guntrip
SEPTEMBER 2009
• 24 pretended love
• 20 What must be done?
• 14 Where can paedophiles hide best?
• 10 Where to go with the rage
• 08 Time to digest
• 07 Leaving the hell.
• 02 The husband`s role
• 01 Panic attacks and talking
AUGUST 2009
• 29 The mute patient
• 23 For the sake of the baby
• 16 The felt anger
• 13 Consciousness or art?
• 06 Cancer patients
JULY 2009
• 21 Spirituality for recovery?
• 21 The eternal hope?
• 20 Keeping on trying
• 18 Hatred behind pity?
• 18 Alzheimer, Trauma, Repression
• 15 Is it allowed to feel?
• 15 The right title
• 15 Assisting Alzheimer
• 14 To overcome the denial
• 11 As adults we don't need the denial.
• 11 Intellectualisation - the high price of denial
• 09 The spiritual revolution
• 07 A symbiotic relationship 2
• 06 A symbiotic relationship 1
• 02 TO BE SEEN
• 01 To give up the dissociation
JUNE 2009
• 26 The painful longing
• 23 Why can't religions help to increase awareness?
• 21 The mother/baby dance
• 18 The first demonstration for the childrens' rights
• 17 We repeat when we refuse to believe.
• 15 A terrible memory
• 14 Morals
• 14 The first step
• 12 The sacred wars
• 06 Your body will know the answer
• 04 The pain in the stomach
• 03 Overcoming the fear
• 02 The vision of a revolution
• 02 Why do we repeat what makes us suffer?
MAY 2009
• 30 a dangerous confusion
• 30 How to get rid of the rage?
• 25 Questions
• 22 Talking!
• 22 Why are they so surprised?
• 22 History repeats itself
• 19 Love your enemy.
• 06 To keep the secret and become sick
• 03 Love doesn't hurt
• 02 A "miracle"?
APRIL 2009
• 30 The greatest reward
• 30 Together with the boy
• 28 The child:s violence 2
• 27 The child's violence
• 24 12 steps and making amends
• 22 Love and Hate
• 19 In the cage
• 19 Depression and safe-hate
• 19 What do I owe to myself?
• 18 Regaining vitality
• 15 Healing hatred?
• 14 Ful determination
• 14 From South-Korea
• 14 When is it enough?
• 08 The respect for yourself
• 07 Compassion for abusing parents
• 04 empathy OR discipline
MARCH 2009
• 30 Born to missionary parents.
• 29 No child deserves humiliation
• 29 dangerous "therapies"
• 19 Information
• 18 Hypnose
• 17 Biographical research
• 16 Understanding the torturer doesn't help
• 16 Nasty behavior or pain
• 15 The price for protecting the Mothers
• 14 Feminism
• 09 How to find a therapist who answers my questions.
• 09 What must parents do?
• 08 I am 19 year old...
• 06 Panic attacks
• 02 A seminar in Rome
FEBRUARY 2009
• 25 analysing paintigs
• 25 enjoying on's own painting
• 24 Translations into Serbian
• 24 Therapies in Texas?
• 21 interesting research
• 20 looking for a therapist
• 19 Information on the Myspace page
• 17 The memory
• 16 Transference
• 14 Aggression out of denial
• 13 We can leave the pattern
• 07 The past and the present parents
• 06 What you really need
• 04 a question?
JANUARY 2009
• 24 The liberating rage
• 24 The sick good children
• 24 We can't change the past
• 24 Leaving the denial
• 02 painful memories
• 01 We all are the crew
DECEMBER 2008
• 20 prenatal life
• 18 The prison of lies.
• 18 The silent adults
• 15 articles
• 13 obedient children
• 10 two articles
• 05 on daring to doubt
• 04 to stop the chain
• 04 illusions
• 02 the 8 year old boy
• 02 not easy
• 02 the dangerous obsession
• 01 psychiatric treatment today
• 01 Becoming free
• 01 your research
• 01 religions
• 01 looking for a therapist
NOVEMBER 2008
• 25 Repairing patients
• 24 more information
• 18 copyright
• 18 A cry from the dark?
• 12 How did I do it?
• 06 the painful heart
• 06 Empathy
• 04 biography
• 03 waking up
• 03 expectations
• 01 fighting the lies
• 01 liberation
OCTOBER 2008
• 28 The right profession
• 26 Conflicting values
• 26 neuropsychology
• 22 dreams
• 21 Sweden
• 21 protecting parents
• 14 to open the door
• 13 question
• 12 no monster
• 12 LOVE
• 11 too much respomsibility
• 05 Your amazing work
• 04 I hate my parents
• 01 Ending self- betrayal
SEPTEMBER 2008
• 30 Saying the truth or being loyal
• 29 Ending the vitious circle
• 16 The Flyer
• 08 understanding
• 06 dream
• 05 Compliments
• 05 From Chile
• 03 Bodynamics?
• 02 It wasn't my fault
• 02 letter to my mother
• 01 why to suffer from "love"?
• 01 a dilemma
AUGUST 2008
• 29 Understanding without empathy
• 29 Your message
• 28 My son
• 26 a terrible tragedy
• 26 a dream
• 24 Arrogance
• 22 standing on my feet
• 21 Welcome my stolen life
• 21 addition
• 18 YouTube
• 17 About therapy
• 17 How can I change him?
• 14 Inspiration
• 14 When hope is lost
• 14 A film
• 12 hope and belief
• 12 What should I do?
• 12 my childhood
• 06 discovering the past
• 06 I am not guilty!
• 04 I wonder
• 02 Your books helped me
JULY 2008
• 26 Nancy's courage
• 24 falling apart?
• 24 Can I talk to you?
• 22 Can it be true?
• 20 My Son
• 20 thank you
• 20 RE: my "friends" children
• 20 An incredible pain
• 20 Dear Dr. Miller,
• 20 interview shonkoff
• 18 child abuse and brain damage
• 17 My "friends'" children
• 16 Shock Therapy is Soul Murder by Butchers
• 16 an excerpt for your enjoyment
• 16 letter to my therapist
• 16 a question regarding a referral
• 12 the wall
• 11 My Childhood story
• 11 The unsolved problem
• 04 Confronting Our Parents
• 03 helping the little bloke
• 03 writing you from Spain
• 02 "For Your Own Good"
JUNE 2008
• 30 Thank You
• 29 from a reader of "The drama of the gifted child"
• 28 Super Nanny, is she good or is she the best we can get?
• 28 moving beyond the Church's complicity
• 21 escaping an obsessed psychiatrist father
• 20 question about parents
• 18 question from Slovenia
• 18 Two Methods of Self-Help
• 17 I want to be a therapist in your style
• 13 Personality Disorders
• 13 Prisoners of Childhood or Drama of the Gifted Child?
• 12 Hello and thank you!
• 12 avoiding pain
• 11 from Newsweek, Poland
• 08 good news - Poland
• 05 romanian version?
• 05 panics
• 05 paintings
• 03 How can I help myself?
• 02 Panic Attacks and Dreams
MAY 2008
• 30 How to make up for mistakes?
• 28 Invitation to Honduras
• 25 Hansel e Gretel centre
• 24 FLDS children
• 24 Integrating Shadow Dynamics Handed Down From Parents: Collective Unconscious Embodied in An Epoch
• 23 Interview with child advocate Andrew Vachss
• 19 Thank you for your amazing courage
• 18 Dependency as adults?
• 18 Thank you
• 12 the unfelt pain
• 06 Alice Miller in Spanish:
• 05 Amstetten: About the childhood of Josef Fritzl
• 04 Dropping Babies
• 04 may I mention your web-site?
• 04 How to prevent a child being beaten..
• 01 Order of Alice Miller Books
APRIL 2008
• 30 born into heroin
• 29 training to become an enlightened witness
• 27 I no longer play your game.
• 26 Why psychoanalysis can't help effectively.
• 24 Gifted child question
• 22 do you use hypnosis?
• 22 Freud and repression
• 20 The Fourth Commandment: Threat of Murder
• 20 brooklyn boy reborn
• 19 A year later
• 18 what should I do?
• 17 never your fault
• 17 dreams
• 15 The Emperor has NO CLOTHES.
• 09 alternative title for 'drama of gifted child'
• 09 different levels of messages from the body
• 07 Questions to Alice Miller
• 03 Thank you
• 02 spankings
• 01 Beyond Words
MARCH 2008
• 31 Questions
• 29 Proposal for Italian Translation of essential portions of your Website
• 26 thank you!
• 24 "Systemic failure, cover-up, and under-reporting of abuse"
• 23 My Boys
• 22 Break The Walls Of Silence
• 21 Strange experience
• 16 Obesitas
• 16 Why they wanted to kill us
• 16 Thank you, Alice Miller
• 16 How do I spread your word?
• 12 What is the best way for me to respond as grandmother
• 12 nearly insane
• 10 the experiment in Iowa
• 07 a mother's deep concerns
• 07 keeping resolve
• 06 Thank you : )
• 03 Unwanted children?
FEBRUARY 2008
• 27 Thank you Alice Miller
• 26 Africa
• 26 letter to Alice Miller
• 25 Dealing with incomplete memories
• 25 Chekhov and Corporal Punishment
• 23 "The Body Never Lies" commentary
• 22 Nanny knows best
• 16 conference proposal
• 11 Writing to thank you for your work
• 11 Hit me like a rock.....
• 08 books and meetings
• 06 Success
• 05 can I really trust myself?
• 05 The truth is a matter of choice
• 04 Ending Relationship with Parents
• 03 Nice to meet you
• 01 It is worthwhile to use the FAQ list
• 01 Clarification for The Body Never Lies
• 01 Illness and death of my father
JANUARY 2008
• 31 A letter from Greece
• 31 my therapist is violent and a liar
• 28 Your Flyers
• 28 Thank You
• 27 Olivier Maurel to Harald Welzer
• 26 Thank You for Your Work
• 22 Regarding
• 21 Two Years Later
• 20 Tantrum
• 20 German Mother + Intuitive all antenae out gift = set up for adult depression
• 19 Thank you
• 18 Your paintings
• 16 Your Book "Saving Your Life"
• 16 Progress report; fairy tales; folk tales
• 07 Reader's Question Regarding Emotional Memory
• 06 thanks for giving the story of my life a meaning
• 05 terror and panic
• 05 Spiritual ideology of "negative emotions"
• 04 Contact
• 03 Thank you; 1984
DECEMBER 2007
• 31 How long will it take???
• 29 hatred and pain
• 28 avoiding the truth
• 26 I believe in Santa again
• 26 Global Initiative to End Corporal Punishment Web Site
• 25 what should I do?
• 24 Alice Miller quote
• 24 I could benefit so much
• 23 The Truth Is Not ( I say NOT) a Punishable Offense
• 23 the truth will set you free
• 22 Santa Claus and Deception
• 19 Thank You!
• 18 pea soup
• 18 Separation from the Soul
• 16 the drama of the gifted child
• 16 Letter to Alice
• 14 What I Know
• 14 A catalyst for change
• 12 EOL program air 12/10/ 07 with barbara rogers
• 07 enlightened witness revisited by science
• 06 Why is the Truth so Scandalous?
• 02 Continuation of The Journey Home to Our True Self
• 02 Napac
• 02 Detachment from Parents
• 01 Senator Hillary Clinton
NOVEMBER 2007
• 30 A note of gratitude
• 30 Nursing Homes
• 25 a letter to my father
• 23 the danger of AA
• 22 what about parts of parenting that go right?
• 22 Korean translation
• 21 my definition of myself
• 20 Manuscript on Fighting Depression
• 19 A request
• 17 parental control of sexuality
• 16 NYTimes.com: In Africa, Accusation of Witchcraft Leads to Abuse
• 11 follow-up
• 09 she eats me
• 05 Norway - a progressive country ?
• 03 audio
• 02 Finally!
OCTOBER 2007
• 30 Do I need to know more?
• 29 I am a trainee psychotherapist
• 28 I don't want to give up!
• 28 Anxiolytic Medication
• 26 Thank you
• 24 Boarding School
• 21 Thank you and info request
• 20 www.screamsfromchildhood
• 20 Thanks from a Replacement Child
• 20 thanks and request
• 20 Thank You Dr. Miller
• 17 12 points
• 15 Nightmares and Novels of Horror
• 15 An Open Letter of Gratitude
• 15 not giving up
• 15 A letter from the invisible man
• 14 Long Journey Indeed
• 13 Dangerous parents
• 12 Wonderful research and texts
• 12 Finding myself again 2
• 11 Aftermath
• 11 Trust
• 09 questions
• 09 thank you
• 07 An incredible pain
• 06 colic
• 03 collaboration and help
SEPTEMBER 2007
• 30 Bio-medical scientists score higher in Autism-Spectrum traits
• 29 colick and hurtful parenting
• 29 Eventually the Anger
• 29 Migraines and Fibromyalgia
• 29 Another unaware person
• 27 All child abuse causes brain damage
• 24 Facts and Pessimism #2
• 24 Facts and Pessimism #3
• 24 anger and rage
• 22 Huricane Kathrina
• 22 Facts and Pessimism
• 18 Children
• 18 I hate them. I'm similar to them. I love me???!!!!!
• 18 If you have the time - a couple of questions
• 12 Lost again
• 08 Fear
• 08 Emotional abuse of my stepson
• 07 Maria Rita Parsi
• 07 How to interpret this?
• 06 I finally listen to myself
• 04 From a young man in Dublin, Ireland
• 04 I can finally listen to myself, can feel, think and speak up
• 03 from lorraine
• 03 Translations
• 01 Letter for alice miller from lorraine
AUGUST 2007
• 29 The Trap of Pretence
• 29 Guilt as a Trap not a Trip
• 29 A Plea to Therapists
• 28 Thanks
• 28 How to get Mrs Miller's books
• 25 Hormonal imbalance due to fear?
• 25 Help for pedophiles
• 25 Terrifying Nightmares of Children
• 24 I feel imprisoned by my past
• 23 An incredible pain
• 23 Unbelievable
• 22 Your works on abusive parenting
• 22 Thank You Alice
• 22 Psychiatry and abuse
• 21 Can't you recommend me a therapist?
• 20 MY story
• 20 Question about Drama of the Gifted Chil
• 20 Diagnonsense
• 20 Potential example of the gifted child's tragedy
• 19 Please help!
• 19 Referral
• 18 Thank You Letter
• 18 No "Evil Genes"
• 16 Your wonderful book
• 15 An incredible pain
• 14 The fear after childbirth
• 12 Karma?
• 12 An incredible pain
• 12 British Journal of General Practice Article
• 12 Psychosomatic Symtpoms and Working Through the Pain #3
• 11 Karma and abuse
• 11 Murder of a 4yr old
• 10 Fear of death
• 07 Denial in psychoanalytic circles
• 07 Thank you letter
• 06 Birth trauma and psychedelics
• 06 Shaky but real
• 06 Questions about counseling
• 06 CONFUSED
• 05 An artist's autobiography
• 05 Arthritis and anger
• 04 After the knowledge . . what?
• 04 Schizophrenic families
• 04 Sleep disturbances
• 04 Is contemporary psychoanalytic thought just another wolf in sheep's clothing?
JULY 2007
• 31 Trust and therapy
• 31 To Dr. Alice Miller from longtime reader
• 29 Sister Behaves Like Abusive Father
• 27 So how do I feel what my body is telling me?
• 26 Creative Remembering or Just Craziness?
• 26 I didn't know who I was
• 26 Connected to myself
• 25 Powerless
• 24 My brother denies the truth
• 22 Dear Alice
• 21 Rimbaud
• 21 Advice for a narcissist?
• 20 Genital examination of girls
• 20 The hidden key
• 20 Emotional honesty - overcoming brain damage
• 19 Is public exposure dangerous?
• 19 A horrific memory came up last night!
• 17 Psychosomatic Symptoms and Working Through the Pain, #2
• 17 Psychosomatic Symptoms and Working Through the Pain, #1
• 14 Truth concealed causes child's suffering
• 14 Psychogenic hearing loss
• 13 Nightmares
• 13 Therapist in Mexico City?
• 13 Irrational side of our lives
• 12 How I help myself
• 11 Stuck
• 11 The gifted child
• 11 Abused abusers
• 10 Dangerous "friends"
• 10 Thank you for all that you do
• 09 What My Body Is Shouting About
• 08 The rage inside
• 08 My Body Is Shouting About Something
• 07 Letters to parents
• 07 Question about a therapist
• 06 "Diary"
• 05 "Diary?"
• 05 Never being praised as a child is very much intimidating
• 04 Book writing
• 04 Fear of achieving
• 01 Re: No idea how bad it may have been - Thursday June 14, 2007
• 01 Emotional trauma - the body knows
JUNE 2007
• 27 To Alice Miller in personal IMPORTANT! URGENT!!!
• 26 To open the eyes
• 20 My experience as a child victim and an adult writer
• 19 Vicious circles of contempt
• 19 Thank you
• 18 Governmental sponsored ultimate child abuse
• 18 "Therapeutic alliance", what does it actually mean?
• 17 Schizophrenia
• 17 A morbid story
• 16 Thomas Gordon's Parent Effectiveness Training
• 16 Forgiveness
• 15 Thank you
• 14 Spanking as sexual abuse
• 14 No idea how bad it may have been
• 14 Informing parents
• 14 Your book really touched me
• 12 Ferenczi's prison
• 09 No exercises
• 09 Anger and cruel behavior in Early Childhood Classrooms
• 08 Gratitude
• 08 Enlightened Witness
• 07 If the bible was AGAINST beating children
• 06 To stand up for the future
• 05 Anger is One of My Feelings
• 05 My body rebells
• 04 A bunch of angry letters
• 03 PTSD as effect of parental humiliation
• 03 Translating a difficult message
• 02 Seeing the parents as the problem
• 01 Ghosts from the Nursery
• 01 On healing
MAY 2007
• 31 Where are we going...
• 30 Born with hope
• 28 Wikipedia child abuse scandal
• 26 Nearly swept away
• 25 Wild flower
• 25 Thank You Alice For Your Encouragement
• 18 Awakening
• 16 Interview Questions
• 15 Question about Disownment
• 13 Activities in Poland
• 12 Forum
• 12 Question of a therapist
• 12 Sexual Abuse and Memory
• 09 Motherday
• 08 Hope
• 06 Thanks for the Book
• 04 Dear Alice Miller
• 04 I am tired of pretending
• 04 The first step to the truth
• 03 Children with chronic illnesses
APRIL 2007
• 30 Your Influence on my future practice
• 28 I called
• 26 Rage
• 26 Obc and internal critical voice
• 23 pain and consciousness
• 21 Rage released with an enlightened witness
• 21 The stolen life
• 21 Thank you for being my enlightened witness
• 20 "Bad Genes"
• 19 What is child abuse?
• 19 The killings in Virginia
• 18 Denying the inner child?
• 18 Poisoneous pedagogy in the spiritual perspective?
• 18 PRI Therapy
• 18 Good Work
• 18 Texas Teacher speaks up.
• 15 Confronting Abusers
• 15 Causes of depression
• 14 Poisonous pedagogy in Primal therapy.
• 13 Ignorance
• 12 Praise
• 12 Surrealism The Aftermath Of Minds Of "Abused Children"?
• 10 Alone in Italy
• 08 Is there a cure for Depression?
• 07 Learning to Sink Your Feet into Life!
• 07 Enemas
• 06 In Appreciation and Addition
• 05 Abusive childhood leads to codependence, another kind of prison
• 05 Alice Miller, I will forever be thankful for your research
• 04 The saved life
• 04 We are not going mad
• 03 My own rage scares me
MARCH 2007
• 23 Laughter at a child's mistreatment
• 20 What I would like to tell you
• 11 The forbidden feelings!
• 09 Where artist's biographies are encouraged but artist talks cause agonizing shame
• 09 Great Food
• 07 A question from Texas
• 06 12 step programs
• 06 Finding myself again
• 05 The need to be listened to.
FEBRUARY 2007
• 26 Feedback for the truth will set you free
• 24 Like the weather?
• 22 I'd like to be less angry
• 21 With thanks for your books
• 20 Feeling like shit
• 19 Exploitation of unmet needs
• 19 Questions and answers
• 18 Your book helps me a lot
• 17 Ritual Abuse - Blind Spot/Omission?
• 15 Thank you
• 15 The abandoned life
• 13 The angelic role model
• 12 Forethought and hindsight
• 08 To please for love
• 08 I never see anyone express emotions like me
• 07 Breaking the cycle
• 07 How to live
• 05 In pain but conscious
• 05 Parental responsibilty
• 04 Website in Portuguese
• 04 Like so many
• 02 Your emotions – your friends
• 02 Compassionate childrearing
• 02 Unraveling the abuse
• 02 Abuse of an entire generation?
• 02 The Body Never Lies
JANUARY 2007
• 31 Getting free
• 30 Peace
• 29 "One of us"
• 29 Postpartum depression
• 27 Harm to mothers and babies
• 27 Early onset Alzheimers and poisonous pedagogy
• 26 Mental illness and "supportive families"
• 25 Books
• 25 Re: response to: Mental illness
• 24 Mental illness and childhood trauma vs. biology
• 23 It would be interesting to know
• 22 Healing the trauma
• 22 If you have a minute, thanks!
• 22 Confusing
• 20 Does Alice Miller teach or lecture in the U.S.A? In Europe?
• 20 your book transformed my life, seeking advice for future
• 19 Drama of a Gifted Child on CD?
• 19 Book about fighting depression
• 19 Thank you for your books in Poland
• 16 Need a help. . .
• 11 The fourth or the fifth commandment
• 09 Followup to your question
• 06 Brainwashing in the medical training
• 05 Reading The Body Never Lies
• 05 Living your life
• 03 Richard Dawkins on Saddam Hussein's execution
• 03 Help finding AM friendly psychologist
• 02 What now?
DECEMBER 2006
• 31 Brainwashing in the medical training
• 30 Unfathomable!
• 24 Paranoia?
• 23 My younger sister and brother
• 21 Illusions disguised as spirituality
• 20 The forgotten rape
• 18 Selling the ideas of Alice Miller
• 16 From Beijing again
• 16 Where can I share ideas?
• 16 Personal comment and question
• 15 Interview or quotations?
• 14 Personal question
• 13 Media request -- child sexual abuse
• 08 The overwhelm of it all
• 08 Teaching to hate
• 05 Dearest Alice, Thank you.....
• 03 A question
• 03 Painful relationship
• 01 Why I remain silent
• 01 The Fiercest Taboo
NOVEMBER 2006
• 28 Using the rage to understand
• 26 Speaking the truth
• 22 Deadness in the body
• 21 Remembering and Grieving
• 17 Your work
• 17 A case in Mexico
• 14 Thank you
• 13 Freedom and mourning
• 12 From Luminous Child again
• 12 Questioning the family
• 10 Teaching affiliation?
OCTOBER 2006
• 30 Also in Japan
• 30 Who will want me
• 29 Help please
• 29 Redefining Love
• 26 About the link "Epoch USA"
• 26 Freedom
• 26 Thank You so much!!!!!
• 24 I am becoming
• 21 Age and change
• 20 To find the poison is healing
• 20 Letter from Poland
• 19 How to believe I'm basically 'good' when I've made my son feel 'bad'
• 18 Journal for Miller studies
• 17 Nobel prize
• 16 What is corporal punishment?
• 12 Forgiveness was a farce
• 09 Youth gangs – "maras" – in Central America
• 07 The Drama. . .
• 01 The Truth Will Set You Free
SEPTEMBER 2006
• 25 Post WWII trauma?
• 22 It's Taken Me 50 Years to Understand
• 21 Emotional neglect
• 20 Audiocassette "Drama of the Gifted Child"
• 16 Permission to use the "12 points"
• 16 A dream on the gifted child
• 13 Electronic library Alice Miller
• 10 Some questions
• 08 Benign abuse?
• 07 News from Austria
• 07 Chronic muscular pain
AUGUST 2006
• 31 What is hatred?
• 30 Looking for a therapist
• 22 Drama of The Gifted Child
• 22 Blocked memories
• 21 The native language
• 20 An abused child... a hurting man
• 18 Repressed needs & feelings
• 18 Expectations
• 17 Helping witness
• 16 My painting
• 14 Idea after 32 years of direct experience
• 09 With thanks...
• 07 The fourth or fifth commendment?
• 06 I cry without reason
• 06 Response to letter on limit-setting
• 03 Prisoners of Childhood
• 02 Honor Thy Father & Mother
JULY 2006
• 30 Jesus
• 30 Marlon Brando
• 30 Using the AM painting as a tool
• 28 Poisonous Education
• 28 The age
• 27 Learning empathy for yourself
• 26 Free Lectures on Cable Access Television
• 24 Limit-setting
• 24 Grieving following therapy
• 24 Documentary
• 24 My text
• 23 Question about violence
• 22 Question about an alleged Alice Miller quote
• 22 How do we change the world?
• 19 Childhood Insight and Medication
• 19 An article
• 15 Permission Request to Use Two Articles
• 14 Physical abuse and poltics
• 12 My mother didn't believe me
• 12 Genes
• 11 Child neglect
• 11 Love and thanks
• 08 A suggestion for your next book?
• 08 Loneliness
• 05 A common misquote
• 04 Thank you
• 03 Hope amidst hopelessness?
• 01 Traditional moral among professionals.
JUNE 2006
• 30 My situation
• 26 More solutions????
• 26 "Spiritual therapist"
• 26 Therapist in Bologna
• 25 Childhood sexuality
• 25 Alice Miller Training...
• 25 The journey I travel
• 24 The proof
• 22 The suppressed rage
• 21 Betrayed by drugs and medication
• 20 Alice Miller Training
• 19 The system of lies
• 12 Origins of sadism
• 11 Therapy - where?
• 05 Which books to start?
• 03 Becoming human
• 01 Books in Spanish
MAY 2006
• 27 AM and parenting books
• 21 The book "Paths of Life"
• 19 Your opinion on C.G.Jung
• 17 Wishing to train in Psychotherapy with Children
• 15 A writing specifically on depression
• 15 Depression
• 14 The body will never understand
• 14 Why My Body Refuses to Obey the 4th Commandment
• 13 Buried memories & emotions
• 07 Oedipus Complex
• 07 Take seriously what you already know
• 05 Can men be frigid?
• 03 Paralyzed
• 01 Our body does not accept compromise
APRIL 2006
• 26 Harmful non-physical abuse
• 23 Homosexuals are not an exception
• 21 They deserve to be punished?
• 20 The most important person
• 18 quotes
• 16 A rare question I have never heard yet
• 15 corporal punishment
• 13 Please advise
• 13 Disappointed
• 10 Wall of silence
• 07 The freedom to feel
• 07 Qestion from Wikipedia
• 06 Yes, Life DID owe them a living
• 05 "How to punish children"?
• 03 Idolizing parents
MARCH 2006
• 29 Hitler and murderous rage
• 29 Alice Miller's paintings
• 28 Parents did not do their best
• 26 The abused child suffers
• 23 We must condemn the use of corporal punishment
• 22 The absurdity of the belief that hitting children is harmless
• 20 How to respond to bullying and mobbing?
• 20 Buddhism & Your Work
• 19 The causes of addiction
• 18 Addiction versus ADHD
• 15 Matriarchy?Patriarchy?
• 07 Trust YOUR truth
• 05 Forgiveness - Flight from oneself
• 03 MANIFESTO re Islamism the new Totalitarianism
• 03 Effective therapy
FEBRUARY 2006
• 27 Learn your own history
• 27 Stages of Human Growth and Development
• 26 Finding the truth
• 24 Your work for silenced children
• 20 question based on chapter 12 of The Body Never Lies
• 19 I respect my feelings more than my parents emotional needs
• 15 I appreciate your work and books
• 11 References to Alice Miller
• 09 Nurturing self-esteem
• 07 How to find an enlightened witness?
• 07 The Counselling Profession and Corporal Punishment
• 05 Corporal Punishment and Gender
• 05 Unconscious hatred
• 02 The courage to see
• 02 Enlightened witness reference in Lisa Carver essay
• 01 Hitting is not Loving
JANUARY 2006
• 30 Short question to Alice
• 30 Can a cruel upbringing be
• 29 Surviving Childhood Corporal Punishment
• 27 Lectures?
• 25 Treat ourselves with love
• 24 How children could speak if they were allowed
• 22 What I feel without anti-depressants
• 21 Our body cannot 'turn the page'
• 21 The Drama of "Gifted" Parents
• 17 Open exchange with children in Norway
• 16 The Silent Among Us
• 13 How Do I Find My Voice??
• 12 The suffering of children
• 11 Alice Miller's books in Spanish
• 10 Tumors are the screams of silent children
• 09 Antidepressants suppress your truth
• 09 The child has no choice
• 05 Relinquishing the idea of forgiveness
• 05 Your books helped me
• 01 Therapists afraid of questioning parents
DECEMBER 2005
• 31 The courage to see and to feel
• 29 The denied history of once endured mistreatment
• 27 The adult can try to feel
• 26 We pay our loyalty to our parents with our depressions
• 22 Thanks for epiphany!
• 21 Child mistreatment in the name of God
• 19 Listen to your client's history
• 18 "I can't honor you"
• 10 Medicalized sexualized child abuse
• 09 Eating Disorder
• 08 Your Books in other languages
• 06 Forgiveness is a cover
• 05 No longer in the trap
• 04 The crime of not giving protection
• 02 I respect every feeling
• 01 My life has been profoundly altered
NOVEMBER 2005
• 29 Project of letters to parents
• 26 The word « discipline » conceals the abuse of power
• 15 Cruel child rearing practices
• 14 Live my own life
• 09 Alice Miller is a researcher on childhood and its effects on the adult
• 08 Being me
• 07 Become yourself
• 06 You belong to yourself
• 03 My legs will not cooperate
• 02 Finding a way out
• 02 An open letter to A.R.
• 01 Finding a therapist
OCTOBER 2005
• 29 My body asked: "Why don't you trust me?"
• 26 The healing potential of rage and anger
• 25 Blindness for the crimes of parents can be found in all ethnic groups
• 07 Violence against children produces violent adults
• 05 Weight lifted off my shoulders
• 03 Message from Bluetigerlady
• 03 the body never lies
• 02 Message from S.
• 01 Message from M.
SEPTEMBER 2005
• 24 Message from D.
• 20 spanking? abuse?
• 19 Message from SB
• 18 Message from BG
• 18 Message from A.H.
• 15 A letter to Alice Miller
• 14 narcissistic injury and sexual identity/preference
• 09 The body never lies
• 08 Message from S.Z.
AUGUST 2005
• 18 your book "Die revolte des Korpers" and my therapy experiences
• 17 Thank you for The Body Never Lies
• 17 Message from T.
• 15 Message from J.D.
JULY 2005
• 27 Message from LJP
• 15 Message from Pamela

Shock Therapy is Soul Murder by Butchers
Wednesday July 16, 2008
Dr. Miller:
I am so deeply indebted to you for your courage and for your honesty, openness, and willingness to share your experiences with us. You set a strong example that is a great challenge to live up to even a little bit.
I am writing because I am planning to visit a friend who has been in an inpatient facility for the past week, having recently been transferred there from another, bigger, scarier facility (The web site language of the bigger facility is very telling. It makes them sound like Fort Knox, very medical in its orientation, very "secure" and very, very power-oriented in every way. They call the patient a "loved one" and keep talking about "what the family wants" for the "loved one"--very, very creepy. Meanwhile, friends can't even find out if the patient is actually there, unless they get permission through the family...sounds like the Mafia, a prison, or a concentration camp, complete with barbed wire.)
My friend, whose history I have little details about and am only beginning to understand, is in his forties. He has two sisters, and his mother passed away recently, resulting in the sale of the home he shared with her--he has issues with alcohol, money, and depression, among others. When I've spoken to him in the past, it seemed that most of the time he was overmedicated, and suffering from depression. He has been in and out of hospitals for depression and for so-called profound depression several times in the past few months, and perhaps earlier. Strangely, he feels guilty and says that he didn't do enough to care for his mother when she was alive and ill, but he also seems like he was never launched by his mother or the rest of his family. Something seems very wrong here and I haven't pieced the puzzle together yet. He also seems to have a history of getting attention using negative behaviors and self-destructive behavior to attract other people to him. I am told he had had some sort of nervous breakdown about 20 years ago, and that his mother took care of him for the past 20 years, when she finally died. He has assigned power of attorney to one of his sisters. Some of his friends call one sister the "good" one and the other one the "evil" one--I spoke to the latter and sounded like she had her own problems, even without her brother's.
Having read several of your books and having read so many of your wise answers on your website, I was ready when he asked me months ago about whether he should have shock treatments. I told him three good reasons not to: 1. no one really knows how they work; 2. sometimes they don't work and in fact make the person worse; 3. people can often suffer irreversible brain damage. I urged him to find another way.
So, I was saddened this evening to learn that when he went into the first treatment facility about a month ago, he went in expressly FOR the shock treatments. Later, I realized that perhaps he had become so negatively attention-seeking and self-destructive (and angry) that he had found a way to get the medical establishment to do his self-destroying FOR HIM. Now he can be a victim of the medical establishment, too. I don't mean to sound insensitive, because I realize that I do not know how he was treated or raised growing up, and it may be that he was abused in his family and is acting it out now, over and over again. The medication only further distanced him from his feelings and his memories, and now the shock treatments have done further, perhaps irreversible, damage.
I plan on bringing your first book to him when I visit him, and I hope he will read it.
It is very disturbing to me that in recent years, SHOCK THERAPY is being used increasingly as a treatment for depression, especially when medication doesn't work. What makes people think that either of these approaches actually works in the first place? Are they EVER, EVER useful? When will people get that depression is practically always a response to a sick family system and the child abuse that masquerades as child-rearing in families? I find it so outrageous that MEMORY LOSS is viewed by shock therapy proponents as a somewhat unpleasant side effect that is considered MINOR compared to the so-called positive results of shock therapy. Well, yes, if one couldn't remember what happened to one, that's not just inconvenient; it is a SOUL MURDER as you have said, and in fact it's the GOAL not the SIDE EFFECT of the shock therapy. So "not knowing how it works" is the medical untruth--we know how it works--it destroys the memory. These are not medical professionals--they are BUTCHERS who are in denial about the source of depression, which I suspect is almost always a trauma suffered as a helpless child. It is clearly politically convenient that this "side effect" renders the victim unable to identify his attackers, and unable to trace the source of the depression--perpetuating the abusive cycle in society over generations. The medical establishment should be ashamed of themselves--they get money for destroying people's lives, colluding with the family members who are so often perpetrators of abuse on top of it, and then have the nerve to call it "treatment" or "help" for the "loved one". What they are really doing is damaging the victim's body and brain, further denying them their FEELINGS, and preventing them from connecting those feelings to their actual experiences in their own body. It is a violation in the truest sense of the word.
I would appreciate any suggestions you have for me for when I see my friend in the hospital.
Dr. Miller, thank you for your hard-won wisdom. You are an inspiration to me on my own journey out of depression and abuse, and I continue to read, re-read, and reflect all of your books. J.
AM: I agree with everything you wrote in your letter and frankly don't know what you could do. Maybe you can ask your friend about his childhood and see if he shows any interest. If yes you can let him tell you what he never told before to anybody and show him your empathy and support. If he denies his suffering in his family at all I am afraid that there is hardly anything you can do. But you will see maybe more when you are with him, without any "program."
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