Help for pedophiles
Saturday August 25, 2007
Dear Alice Miller,
I have a friend that has a obsessive sexual attraction for children ages 0-9.
He was sexually abused by his father from age 4 to 13.
During this time he was gang raped and also sexually abused by other pedophiles.
He was also forced to abuse animals and he got sexually attracted to dead people.
I think he was about to become a serial killer.
He has never abused a child but he thinks about it all the time obsessively.
My research on the subject of helping pedophiles has shown that no one is taking this subject seriously.
My friend thinks that there is no cure for being a pedophile. Can you please tell me what I need to do? I would like to help my friend. Can a pedophile be cured? If yes, please give me some ideas as to what needs to be done and how long it will take.
I was also sexually abused as a child. I did not become a pedophile but I did suffer a lot with the idea that I liked and attracted the abuse.
I was able to get over sexual abuse after I put the blame on my abusers.
It took me 14 years of work by myself because I was unable to find a therapist that could help me.
Thank you for any help that you can give.
AM: You write: I was also sexually abused as a child. I did not become a pedophile but I did suffer a lot with the idea that I liked and attracted the abuse. I was able to get over sexual abuse after I put the blame on my abusers.
So you know quite well what your friend has to do. But if he protects his abusers and doesn't want to suffer, doesnt want to FEEL his truth, nobody can force him to do this work. It must not take 14 years of time if one finds a good therapist.